Down to the Last Few Drops of Summer

Down to the Last Few Drops of Summer

My friend Bob Cormier, author of "The Chocolate War," loved the words "summer afternoon." They evoked for him not just memories of summer but also the sounds of summer. The hum of lawn mowers, the clinking of bicycle chains, the ping of bats hitting balls, kids outside shouting, a carousel's calliope, the ice-cream man's bells. They evoked for him, too, the tastes of summer — fresh blueberries, fried dough, cotton candy…

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Loving Texts, However Brief

Loving Texts, However Brief

We have been texting and e-mailing for one year now. I know this only because I printed out the first e-mail he sent and taped it in my journal. "On Aug 30, 2015 at 7:48 PM, Adam wrote: "I got my own computer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

Adam is my grandson. He was 11 then, and it wasn't a new computer. It was his mother's old one. But he was thrilled. And so was I, not because…

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When Self-Doubt Isn't in the Picture

 When Self-Doubt Isn't in the Picture

'When I'm 12, I'm going to be on Broadway in a play with Sutton Foster." This is what I love about children. They dream big.

Charlotte was 8 when she said this. She's 9 now and every bit as sure that Broadway is in her future. There's no "Maybe I'm not good enough" in her tone. No self-doubt. No looking outside of herself for affirmation. She is certain that if she tries hard..

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Remembering Mom, Through Dad's Lens

Remembering Mom, Through Dad's Lens

He was always taking her picture. He could have photographed different things: the trees he planted to separate our yard from the neighbor's; the birds that nested in those trees; our dog, Buttons, whom he fed leftovers on the sly. He could have photographed the grotto my mother wanted, which he struggled to build on so many of his days off, or the cement patio he poured, where my best friend, Rosemary, and I left our handprints…

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Little white lies, with love

Sometimes we lie to spare ourselves. Sometimes we lie to spare others. I like the sparing others lie.

Decades ago, when my husband was in Arizona with his work buddies, on a reward trip, a building-partnership trip, a "get out of Dodge it's winter here and perpetual summer there" trip, he called home the first night and announced, "It's raining."

"It's raining?" I said back. It hardly ever rains in Phoenix. Nearly 300 days of sun and only 20 days of any kind of precipitation, boasts the Chamber of Commerce.

"It's just a fluke. I'm sure the sun will be shining by tomorrow," my husband said confidently.

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In Dreadful Winter, Distraction is the Key

In Dreadful Winter, Distraction is the Key

It started last Sunday as the rain fell and fell, that closed-in feeling, that sense of foreboding, of "Oh, no, here it comes."

It's only rain, I said out loud, an incantation, really. It's rain, not snow. Be grateful.

And I was. Or tried to be. But last winter is still in the rearview mirror, with its mountains of snow, and impassable roads and sidewalks, and caved-in roofs, and ice dams, and no place to park the car, and endless, stormy days. And there's not enough…

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Maybe It’s Time to Let Christmas Linger

I said, in December of 2014, as my husband and I were undecorating our house after it took weeks to get just so, as we were wrapping up Santas and Christmas plates, labeling snowmen and angels, packing away the creche, looking once again at all the photo cards I can't ever throw away, cards I store in a giant box in a closet and resurrect every December, that we should keep up the Christmas decorations all year long. Why not? They're bright and colorful. The tree is artificial. The garland is, too. Glitter and gold…

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